How to Get a Guy to Like You
Do you want a guy to be completely crazy about you, the way you are about him? While you can't force someone to feel a certain way, you can definitely put your best foot forward and give his feelings a chance to develop. Here are some helpful hints on how to charm a guy, while still being true to yourself.
Like yourself. You've got to show this person how awesome you are, but first you need to know how awesome you are. Build up your self confidence
if it's sorely lacking. Now, this doesn't mean you have to be loud,
boisterous, arrogant, chatty, or forward. It just means getting to a
place where you feel comfortable in your own skin. You can be secure, sweet and humble
all at the same time. But be prepared to come out of your shell. Guys
like confident, interesting girls who lead their own lives. The only
guys who like insecure girls are the ones who are insecure themselves
and want to dominate another human being. And who wants to be with a guy
who wants a girl to feel bad about herself or who wants to tell you how
to be all the time? That's not healthy, and you deserve much better.
(2). Make it clear you're available. Wearing a "single
bracelet" will do the trick: they're stylish, very noticeable, and say
that you're ready for a relationship if you can handle being single.
He's not going to hit on you if he thinks you're taken. If you have a
Facebook account and he's not already in your friends list, invite him;
just make sure your status is set as single! If you don't want to wear
the bracelet, he's not on Facebook, or he just doesn't see your
invitation, make it obvious in other subtle ways, such as hanging out
with your girlfriends (letting them in on this helps - they can help
with arranging things and 'un-awkwarding' bad situations if things get
tricky. They also know where you stand on the relationship front and
won't start falling for him themselves) a lot where you know he'll be,
dropping subtle hints about not knowing who to go with to an event, etc.
Never,ever get someone else to ask a guy out for you.
However, you might judge it helpful to talk to a totally trusted friend
(see above) to let her know how much she can let on in his presence as
to your availability, without sounding obvious. However, see "Warnings"
below about telling your friends about your love interest.(3). Get his attention. He can't fancy you if he doesn't know you exist. If you haven't caught his eye yet, then get him to notice you. Make sure you show a little interest and drop small hints that you like him. Most guys won't ask you out because they're afraid of getting shot down. You've got to walk before you run, right? Say "Hi". Say "Good-bye". Give a little wave. When he reciprocates, is when you know he notices you. Introduce yourself somehow and make conversation. Take an interest in who he is––what he likes, where he's coming from, where he wants to go––and show him who you are, too. While some guys don't like to talk that much, it's nearly impossible for someone to like you if he doesn't get to know you, unless he "likes" you for all the wrong reasons.
(4).
Crack a joke. Having a good sense of humor makes everything better. That doesn't mean you should be a giggling fool, laughing at everything that crosses your path. Express your sense of humor in your own way. Some people are witty and sarcastic, others can tell hilarious stories, and many people just do quirky things and poke fun at themselves. No matter what tickles your sense of humor, it's much easier to like someone who you can have a good laugh with once in a while. If you don't find something to laugh about together, then maybe you'll discover that you don't like him after all!
(5).
Don't be afraid to be his friend. Being his friend first gives you two great benefits: he gets to know you and you get to know him, without the awkwardness of being in a dedicated relationship. Treat him like you would all your other friends. You can go deeper than when you're in defined boxes. Guys will usually be more open with guys than girls, but that doesn't mean that both of you can't get close - that's usually where the magic happens. Just be careful though––if it gets too platonic, you might lose the romantic connection and sometimes it can be really hard to get back that spark once you are seen as the trusted, ever-reliable friend. It can become too difficult and you both give up. A little bit of flirtation throughout the relationship will keep things going nicely.
(6).
Do things together. If he loves rock-climbing, ask him if he can show you how, and make a good-faith effort to see why he's so into it. Have an open mind. Find out what you have in common, and include him into your world. If you love a certain kind of music, ask him if he's ever listened to a particular artist and offer to play a CD for him. Finding activities that you can enjoy together can really lay down a bond and further his appreciation of you. If he thinks of himself as the next premier league player,turn up at the football practises you're invited too. Cheer him on
(7). Have patience. These things take time. You can't force someone to like you, and trying to hurry things up can ruin the courtship altogether. Give him some space and don't be obsessive. Let things progress at a natural pace, or fade out of natural causes. Eventually he'll tell you one way or another whether or not he's interested in reciprocating your affection. And if he's not, don't hang around him like a lost puppy. Sometimes you might be incompatible in ways that you don't see, and sometimes a guy just isn't ready for a long term relationship. Often with guys, things go on so deeply, it's hard to notice the effects until - BOOM - they're there. Don't take rejection too personally. It happens to all of us at one time or another. Not everyone in the world is going to like you. Move on! There are other fish in the sea and if you followed the first step, you know that you're a good catch, for the right guy.
(8).
Finally, but importantly, keep in mind that you cannot control what other people think and do. He may be the object of your interest, but that does not create any obligation that you be an intimate part of his world. Turn the situation around. If there was some random guy who took an interest in you, is there anything that he could do to make you like him? Probably not. The reality is that you will either like him that way, or you won't. You will find him attractive or not. You will find him funny or not. All he can do is try to be the best person he can be, and hope that you agree. The reverse is also true. Be the best person you can be, and let it develop
TIPS THAT CAN ALLOW YOU...
- Never forget to smile! It's an age old, safe way to extend an invitation to a guy to socialize. Plus it's totally free and increases your face's real estate value instantly! (Also, remember to brush your teeth often enough so they stay white!)
- Guys love girls that have their own personality so be yourself! Try
not to change yourself for a guy and make him like him because of who
YOU are, not because he's changed you into a person you're not.
- Now everybody always says "be yourself" if you're a girl who is mean, rude, and doesn't have a lot of friends, try a new style. Try being nicer to others, care about each others feelings. But don't be too nice, then people will start to think you're fake. This will get you far.
- Boys love mysterious girls. So don't be fully open to him! Let some things out but hide something and make sure he knows you're hiding it. Then he will try to get the answer, and in the process of doing that, he will know you more and more. Guys LOVE to think it's their idea.
- Ensure that he is single. If you try to get the attention of a guy who already has a girlfriend and you know it, you'll be wrongfully barging into another relationship, which isn't fair. Only go after him if you know he's available. It also shows he'll be just as easy to lead away when you're in a relationship. Guys like that usually drift through life with a string of adoring and simultaneously fed-up women in their wake. They're known as 'players' to most of us, and 'jerks' to their ex girlfriends. Avoid, avoid, avoid is all the advice I can offer.
- Don't talk about your other prospective guys with the guy you're interested in. While you might think it's a way of showing just how "in demand" you are, it's suggestive that you're shallow and easily misled, not something that any person looking for a long-term relationship would feel sound about. Frankly, it's just not good form, and it's a good way to get rid of him.
- Be an all-around great person, even if you're rubbish at mathematics (joke!). If you focus on being an all-together, motivated, kind, and humorous individual, how can anyone resist? Some guys might be intimidated, and they're too insecure to be worth your interest anyway. But it's only a matter of time before a guy who can like you for who you really are will come around and see that you're an awesome person to be around.
- If there is no sign of him being interested in you, that doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't interested. He could just be shy, or be a little frightened, especially if he hasn't dated anyone for a long time, or if it's their first time. Be patient but don't badger him; simply let him know the door's still open if he should be bold enough to call by.
- Be aware that some guys take longer to grow up than others (the "Peter Pan" syndrome). In this case, you're better off not waiting around but looking for a guy who has already made the decision to grow up. You don't want to become someone's stand-in mom.
- Some people prefer being friends first. Others prefer to avoid the "just a friend" zone. Ideally, you can be a little bit of both––a friend and a romantic interest.
- Another old trick is if you see him at the beach, make sure to show some skin. Don't be complete tart, however, and never leave your personal comfort zone. An off-the-shoulder baggy tee over your costume is probably advisable, because it's a lasting picture; school uniform doesn't usually allow exposed shoulders. Be sure that he has seen you that way then at school, he will see that image of you - smiling in the beautiful sunshine, messing around, both of you laughing and happy. He then wants to get that image back, so he gets closer and closer, and he eventually falls in love.
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